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Is it ok to ask someone how much they make? 

66%
908 deviants said Depends
19%
261 deviants said Yup its ok
14%
198 deviants said No its rude.

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yozoru Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2013  Hobbyist
It depends on how close you are to that person. Asking someone you just met would be considered rude, but if you know them well enough then it wouldn't hurt to ask. And if they aren't comfortable sharing information like that, then you'd need to respect their decision. 
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XOrdinary1998 Featured By Owner Mar 5, 2013
Why not?
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Ry-Spirit Featured By Owner Mar 5, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Cos if they dont make a lot they might feel ashamed to tell u. If they make a lot they might feel insecure to let anyone know in case of being targetted for ransom or robbery. Thats wat i think
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XOrdinary1998 Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2013
Hmm, maybe. Most people shouldn't be that unwilling to say, though. If some dude came up to me and asked me what my job was and how much I made (we're assuming for this example that I have a job), I'd tell them, but that's just me.
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Tuttie Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2013  Student
Depends. We newbie graphic designers ask each other and ask around how much people make, especially freelancing just to get an estimate of what's standard and which client is a cheap bastard. Though I would never dare ask someone even from my family how much they make. I don't even know exactly how much my father made a year.
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Kezulos Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2013  Professional General Artist
I was surprised that NO only got 14% of the vote, but then again, in this day and age, with everything on the internet for the world to see, and nothing being sacred any more, I retracted my surprise.
This might be more of a generational thing, too. I grew up with parents old enough to be my grandparents, and I was always told never, EVER to inquire what someone made, and I never knew anything about my parent's financials either.
Now that I'm where I am today, I continue to respect that. It isn't because if I knew they made less than I, I'd want to help out, or if I knew they made more, I'd be envious to the point of hurting the relationship. It's because I don't think it's anyone's business, unless I make it so. And since I don't, no one should be asking me. As it is, the only people who's $$ stuff I am involved with is in my own relationship, unless a friend or family member blabs to me.
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Nenie Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Only if you know them personally. ;D
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wezenbeesje Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2013  Professional General Artist
Yes, especially your colleague or someone who does the same job, because then you know if it's fair or not and you might want to do something about it.
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jeff-aka-stray Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
It really depends on who's asking and why. I don't think it's necessarily rude just to ask just because some people are uptight about it. Maybe you're just curious about their profession because you're interested in it yourself. In this economy I don't think it's that crazy to ask someone with a job how much it pays.

I do think in certain situations it's rude, but overall I think people are a little too uptight and guarded about this type of thing. I think most of the time people are just trying to get an idea of what your profession pays. Is that so wrong?
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Alfazil Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
Unless I'm doing a survey I don't think it's polite to ask.
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bittersweetchoco Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I hit "yes"...but I've never really asked anyone/cared enough to.
OH, but...
I think once you know the person's job, it's easy to figure out the range of what they make. Besides, people are going to exaggerate their income anyways.
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ShadowKnightSociety Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I really find it rude, and my friends avoid mentioning such subject. It's one of the sensitive topics that you should never mention among friends or anyone in particular.
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clauds-d Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
It depends on how well you know that person... My close close friend asked me.. i told her, someone who is just an acquaintance asked me.... and I asked them why would they want to know.
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ArjaytheGuy Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
As a general rule is say it's rude
BUT if someone is being rude an carrying on about how much they make and claiming that they're somehow special or "superior" because of it I want to know.


Also I think that politicians and senior government employees should have their salaries revealed to the public since it's the public that pays their wages.
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scapegoatie Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
In a business setting? Yes. Your good friend? Maybe. An acquaintance you're chit-chatting with? Absolutely not; I was raised to believe that this is very rude and will look like you're being condescending.
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Selene-FEWA Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist
depends on your relationship with the "someone"
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:iconforced-enjoyment:
Forced-enjoyment Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
there pay makes no difference to me as long as there a mate
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:iconkeyshe54:
Keyshe54 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013   Traditional Artist
Depends on the intentions/situation/how appropriate it is to ask.
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Gamergal64 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
Depends. If it is a coworker, even a friend, don't do it (especially at work.) Close friends, maybe family it's ok but otherwise it makes you sound like you want money and that seems bad. I have asked my sister (older by 1 year) but never my other sister (older by 5) or anyone else because I felt only my relationship with my 1st sister was it ok.
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nightmaredude456 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I think it depends more on the person and your relationship with them than the situation. If you're close to this person and know them well, then it might be alright to know. But you're not about to ask your boss who much they make, are you?
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mexican-polarbear Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Student General Artist
It depends on the situation. If you just ask out of the blue or while shopping with the person it will seem rude. If the conversation was already set on work and income then I think it'd be fine.
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LoPrestiArt Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Depends on the intentions.
If you ask because you know you make more and you want to fel good about your self.... no
if your asking for a curiosity sake... yes
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Shadow0Kat0 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Student Digital Artist
good friend yes, person you just met, kinda rude.
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MR-NIK Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013   Digital Artist
It depends, if they are my friend and I trust them, I will not be offended if they ask me. But If they are just some schmucky co-worker i will not take kindly to that.

And if its somebody just non-challantly asking, then I will tell them it's none of their business.
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SM51 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
It depends on the scenario. Is this person a good friend of yours or close family? Then I'd say yes. Are you asking someone you don't know very well? Then you probably shouldn't, unless it gets brought up or is relevant to something.
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Ry-Spirit Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
For those waiting for my answer. I like to give vague answer. cos i know whatever answer it is, they wil be making comparison. If i make more than them they might think im not worth that much, if I make less than them they might feel happy they make more than me (I dont wanna give them that pleasure). Also there's a saying in chinese 'if you talk money, you may break a friendship', and its kinda true.. also if I know how much another person is making everytime we go to pay a bill or whatever for dinner, you kinda subconciously think the richer one should pay for the meal kinda thing.
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zzpopzz Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It depending, I want to know ur answer too since I want to know how much u make
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Soaked-in-Matter Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i asked a lot of people, thinking it was ok. they all look away and change the subject or say 'enough' O.o im like oooook? guess its rude or something lol its taboo to ask lol
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nachomoo Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ofc its ok. If we dont know how much someone is making how can we accuratly complain that they are being paid too much?
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Venom-V13 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
Depends i guess!
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Tegz0rz Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes, given that you know the person, and you're not just a stranger with a knife to their throat. I think it's perfectly fine. It's just a conversation subject, I don't know how people can get sensitive about it.

I mean, if someone asks you how much you make, and then some money suddenly goes missing, well you've already got a pretty obvious suspect.
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goldhedgehog Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
Depends oh who's asking and who is answering.
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Zkwid Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
For some reason it's a sensitive subject in Sweden, especially if it's someone who's makin good. It's rude to be good and it's bad to be bad... I guess that's mostly older people tough. : )
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:iconultrtruehyperdarkson:
it depends if you want to make your self feel like shit if they make a hole lot more money then you or if you want to seem like a douche because you make more money then them
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:iconry-spirit:
Ry-Spirit Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
lol so either way its no good lol
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:iconoo-mi-oo:
oO-Mi-Oo Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013
I was told it's rude to ask. Even my bro won't tell me how much he gets
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LifeIsZealous Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
If uncertain of where you stand, don't ask them. If you know for a fact they won't care (i.e. best buds) then ask away.
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Demonlemon Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013
$14 an hour, time and a half anything over 8 hours per day or weekends

Never found it rude to ask, always answered when people ask me(which is quite often)
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MusicLovesEveryone Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I was brought up never to ask and that it's personal information. And "unless they tell you, you don't ask". I don't even know how much my parents make o.O
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Ry-Spirit Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
i think dats polite.
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theamazingwrabbit Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
hmm well i dont think i make a lot in comparison to adults but i am damn happy with my job.
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Taddle Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Guess it depends if the information is important and the topic is relevant. Money has always been a touchy subject for me, because I feel people are trying to judge a person financially whenever they ask how much people make. And depending on the kinds of people who are asking, it probably wouldn't be a good idea to reveal that kind of info.

Like if a more successful person asked me how much I was making, it'd probably be more embarrassing than anything. But if a lower-income person asks, they tend to take advantage of the fact like "Dude can you do me some favors I don't make as much as you do; Its not that much, just spot me a bit; c'mon man, I'm trying to survive here, etc. etc.". That's a thing that has happened all too often with me.
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Verdokai Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013
In polite company? No.

Of course there are always exceptions, like if friends are inviting to the discussion (never pushing it on someone), but the blanket answer is 'no' because the exceptions are noted as such: exceptions.

But that might just be a cultural thing.
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FallenAngelGM Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013
Depends on the conversation's topic.
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Boltonartist Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Hey Ry, how much do you make?


..oh, its for a school project and I just.. y'know ..need to know~
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:iconry-spirit:
Ry-Spirit Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
tricky fella! I make about $20 per dance. $30 if including private show.
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:iconboltonartist:
Boltonartist Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Ohboy.... Okay, how much in a week.. and when is your pay day?




...Y-yeah, school work counts on top of that too, tafe means business y'know.
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JJoploo47 Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
LOL
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:iconboltonartist:
Boltonartist Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Hmm.. my school might need to know how much you make too~

Ahhaha, glad to have amused you~ eue
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Portosilva Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Student General Artist
It definitely can be.

I just make sure if I do ever ask, it's a question proposed to Google.
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