mixing the name isn't as nice of a idea as you might think the kids of the pair now have to deal with a stupidly long last name, for me I have 15 charters then if you chose to mix it again the next generation it become even longer XC .. its fine for the adults but its a pain in the neck for growing kids that cant fit there name on a library card (its fine latter on though) personally i think the last name should be left alone if not changed entirely for the newer generation by the couple. ^^
How would you truly be together forever if you had two separate last names? It's a form of submission for a woman to change her name when she gets married. If she doesn't want her name to change, then she shouldn't get married! Simple as that! I don't know why it's a woman-to-man's-name thing, but that's just how it goes! Men are to protect the women and care for them--who cares if they ARE able to fend for themselves?
Well, I'd like to keep my last name... I wanna keep my initials as a squiggle! (MNW) Unless the lucky guy is even more lucky, and has a last name starting with "W". XD I dunno if I'll ever marry, though. I'm really picky...
As a woman, I'd like to say that we should have a choice whether or not to change our last name. For some, their original name has a special meaning, or purpose to them. Seriously, it's up to the couple. It's their choice, not the law, who/whatever, nor nay-sayers'.
I'm planning on getting married very soon, and this question has come up.
It's really sad to say that if parents give birth to an only child that happens to be female, your last name will never continue to endure. She basically cuts off your family name, and helps to continue someone else's surname. My last name is very unusual, there are only a few of us with my last name, so I feel weird being the daughter who can't help continue the family name. The only reason I want to change my name is because I'm replacing a hard-to-spell name with an easy-to-spell common name.
I feel like two married people should share one of their last names. If the husband's last name is buttface, go with the wife's. I don't think it matters which name really, as long as they share one. Having different last names kind of takes away from the marriage, if it were mine.
Hmmm, I think its really debatable to be honest. Totally up to the people getting married. I know for myself I can see myself with my boyfriend's last name, but that's only because my current last name is riddled with so many bad memories...but I'm changing it to my mother's surname this May so that'll be nice.
I just think whether we take on another's surname or not, or mix them together or drop it off -- its really for what makes those involved the happiest. I mean, its their life. Why push them into something they may not like. Plus I know there's some women who keep their original surname primarily for work related reasons. Everyone does it differently. I personally just think we shouldn't bicker or whatnot about this, its really up to the person (or persons) in the marriage or whatever the situation is.
My mother told me about some friend she had whose last name was 'Bottomly' and she ended up marrying same European guy of the last name of 'Bonk' and in Europe they hyphenate the woman's maiden name before their husband's surname... put the two together...
in mexico they just use both father and mother last name and the child chooses wich one will be pass down when it comes to the next generation bad thing about this we have long names SO SAYS JESUS MANUEL GUTTIEREZ DUARTE THE 3Rd!
At least judging from what I am most comfortable with. In Puerto Rico people legally use two last names, the mother's and the fathers, but the person getting married doesn't have to change it. I always assumed it was true but apparently it is a myth. I also prefer to legally use both my last names in US states even without getting married. I don't care where I go and apparently colleges, the banks, and other legal businesses don't mind calling me by both my last names ether. So why should I stop?
But still, I am glad a woman having to change her last name after marriage isn't required anymore. Call me a stubborn feminist who doesn't want to shave her armpits or whatever but if I ever have to change my last name after getting married then I rather stay single. A person's last name is a man's/woman's business and things are better of that way, with everyone being able to choose if they want to change it or not. It's 2013.
We have a singer and ex politician here in Lithuania that actually officially married and took his wife's last name for only the reason that it would make him "King", and it's an awesome last name. So it shows that you should take the more awesome sounding last name out of the two.
Personally I have my mothers maiden last name, even if my mother herself does not have it anymore, neither does my brother nor sister, and thanks to my grandparents only having daughters I am last with that last name in the family line. So I believe you should be able to do what ever you want with your last name. For example, if your husbands last name is not that impressive and neither are yours why not take the clan name your ancestors once had instead?
As a 15 yo girl, when i think about it, changing my name would be impossible, i have it since i'm born. Maybe when you grow up, your vision changes, but it would too sad to become another's family "property". I think i'll keep my name, i don't know how, though, when i'll marry.
Who ever has the best last name wins! Otherwise you wind up with women named Lauren Lauren or stuff like Kate Tate. I was happy to take my husband's last name because it was so much more awesome than mine XD
And it is still requied somewhere? Owo' No, of course not, why would they HAVE to? It's good if they can(And most do it) but don't have to. This way everyone's happy, you do not forbid traditions to those who like it but still don't force it on others who does not ^^
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I just don't see the point. Why would I get rid of my family name to put a man's last name instead? My mom changed her last name after her second marriage, so her name on my ID and on hers are different .-. Also it's so confusing
If a woman wants to keep her sur name then more power to her! I don't think it really makes that much of a difference. I personally will most likely change my last name when I get married but that is just me.
There was a guy who took his wife's last name to continue her families last name since he didn't care too much about his own he did. But then he was accused of fraud! Just because he changed his name and apparently he had to go through this whole process. It was ridiculous. Just because it is not common doesn't mean a guy wont/can't do it. Its just plain idiotic.. =____=
Actually in my religion, women are required to not take their husband's first/last name after marriage, because its the father's name she should keep. But because of the trend in West of women using their husband's names after marriage, most of us have adopted the same to avoid confusions specially in legal documents like passport etc.
Over here the first last name of the father and the mother's are given to the kid/kept. (like someone else mentioned below) so I find it weird that you have to change your last name if you get married over there, I mean, I feel like they are throwing away a parent's memory. (?) or maybe I'm just being dramatic...
lol, i guess it all depends on who has the cooler last name. My Fiance's last name is Brouillard (i'm living in quebec canada) which is french for Fog, and thats really cool...i'd rather she kept it. I think were it would really get questiony in the future, is when you have kids....for true equality....will your kids have the wife's or the husbands last name?
Women don't have to take their husbands name at all. Many women I know don't. I don't know about other countries, but in Canada you can have your name pretty much anything you want. Actually, many men take their wives names. Why? Because they just choose whichever name sounds better.
I say no. I have absolutely nothing against it, and I think it's a nice thing to do, but I don't think it should be required. Although, I was tempted to say yes, because any woman who turns down the last name "Buttface" doesn't know how to live a little. Mix them, or each keep separate, sure. I'd prefer to either have a woman adopt my last name in marriage, though, or keep her own. I don't want any mixing done, personally. I'd first adopt her surname fully over mixing