I tend to answer with the the response they wanted to hear which in turn keeps me a neutral conversationalist just to avoid conflict and hatred. I feel too much sadness and regret to speak the way I should have been able to speak since I was born. Honestly and openly having my own opinions...but I have often come to observe that in this day and age it is better for people like me to never speak. It will only cause people frustration and confusion and sometimes great anger upon one who does not speak like them. But it also has come to my attention that other peoples opinions in conversations must always be heard and understood...so I have dedicated my life instead to understanding and agreeing with everyone's thoughts equally..it makes sense to do so.
Yup. Family expects you to act like them when you are around them. My dads family is humorous and easy-going, my moms family are more closed off and hide their emotions, and my friends are different than both sides of my family. So I find myself behaving differently with each group.
I don't really put on a different personality when I talk to different people - it's just that some traits of my personality are amplified when I talk to certain people and reduced when I talk to others.. which sorta creates the illusion that I'm a different person, but it's still me. It's sorta like how a chameleon changes colors to blend in with its environment.
Oh, yeah. I'm extremely respectful to people I view as worthy of such respect, I avoid those I despise (which the list is relatively few. It takes a lot to piss me off to the point I despise someone...) and depending on the group of lunatics I'm hanging out with at the time all depends on whether I stick to dry humor, sarcasm, or dark humor.
And I'm a very different person offline than online, though I've tried to change that... unfortunately I seem to be changing my online self more.... curses!
I'm usaully supposed to be an outgoing, happy-go lucky friendly, crazy person! But it all went down-hill, because of me having a bad experience of making friends a long time ago. Now today I’m just usually quiet, and shy. I stutter when I talk because I’m afraid to say something wrong. But when I’m around my cousins, that’s the only time I show my true personality.
It's not that my personality is different, it's more the mannerism of speech and the amount of truthfulness than anything that changes. You could say that everyone sees the same face, just different amounts of it. I am happy and sad, loving and hateful, kind and cruel, but it is the same me, the same personality(quite fitting for a person that has both roots for god complex and inferiority complex at the same time). The only times I change completely is the instances when I am forced to deal with people I really hate yet I need to be tactful still, but it's quite clear that it is fake, not a different face, just me lying trough my teeth.
everyone puts on new sides even when they talk to their different friends, its not a bad thing, it just means you've adapted to make being together easier. everyone puts on different faces in front of people because.. lets face, it, some things you just cant talk about in front of certain people.
I would have to say Yes but that is not a trait i am proud of. It just happens. And its cool to be who you are. Lol To some people I am cool and confident and to some people I am shy and simple. But both the way I am nice !! lol
Yeah, most people do. You just behave differently in different situations. I don't act the same on here, as I do with my family, as I do with friends I'm comfortable with, though it's not different personality, you just let different aspects show, in my opinion.
Well I am very very shy so I'm usually quiet, positive and (try to be) nice to strangers. To my friends I'm usually much more outgoing/random, crack jokes and even become sarcastic for the sake of lulz. To my family I'm just a tiny bitter bitch though.
I work at the local AZA accredited zoo as an educator, talking to the public from 9-5. That mask is far different than the one I normally wear. You'd be surprised how many of the people who talk for a job are quiet, shy people outside of the work place. While I am not afraid to talk to people, outside of my work I rarely start conversations with strangers as I do at work and I mostly keep to myself. Many of my coworkers are the exact same way
I voted no. However, I do change a bit person to person. Some people I'm more excitable with, others I'm more silly or serious. I'm always basically the same, but just minor shifts person to person. It's basically based on comfort and trust.
I don't think he's talking about angry and calm, those are moods, he's talking about personality. I'm pretty sure everybody does it, the same way you are different around your family or friends, in or out of work etc.
As a roleplayer, I sometimes switch between those personas and mine when I'm talking to someone I'm unfamiliar with. When I'm around my peers, I'm an unreserved, perverted smartass- the complete opposite of myself XD It really depends on who I'm around what personality I choose to bring out, although the smartass likes to hang around wherever I go -.-
Kinda, it's just a slight change I think. People are individuals and all have different tastes and styles-- I try to match what works best with each. Like I am goofy and playful with those that appreciate it and those that are more serious so I am with. Then there are those that we both are hostel to one another XD
I had literally just woken from a dream in which I was explaining this to a friend when I saw this poll. I am well aware that I am a social chameleon, and don't deny it! Although, around friends, it is generally very small differences. I think the only two significant changes in my personality is if I'm trying to deal with someone who's elderly or in a position of power over me. Especially if they could get me in lots of trouble or I need to make a good impression. As a couple of examples:
If I had to go to see the principal in school, I would be all manners, and play it 'cute.' Turn into a sweet, innocent, and mildly shy young person. Because I've learned through experience that a surprising amount of adults are huge suckers for that kind of behavior. I used to act like that naturally, 'cause I was a purdy shy li'l kid, but now that I'm not like that... I sometimes revert back purposefully, if I think it'll help my cause. c;
Also, if I'm with my mother I have a couple of things I more or less... contain. I don't 'change' but I also don't let her see all the rowdy, pervy sides there are to me, haha. BECAUSE IT'S MY MOM. If you've ever been around someone you know very well when they're around their mother, you'll notice a lot of people do something like this. The go into "mom" mode. People had a tendency to present themselves to their mothers in a way they feel is more like what their mother is used to, from when they were growing up and living at home. OR SO I BELIEVE from what I've observed of other people.
And I think most everyone has a couple of people they let go of their inhibitions around. Like when you're sitting down watching Avengers with your best friend and start squealing and having embarrassing fanboy moments [that you would usually push down and contain around other people] over RDJ and Chris Evans and Renner's muscly arms. :I Or do stupid shit with, like... go skinny dipping in the middle of April.
Well, when you think about it most people end up having a different personality depending on where and who you're with. You have one with your family, one with your friends, one in public, one in danger, one with a lover, and one in private.
Kind of. My intentions are the same but my voice isn't.
When I talk to my close relatives my voice goes uncontrollably higher and I sound like an obnoxious 5 year old talking...but with a deep voice in a 21 year old's body. (doesn't help that I look underage so I end up looking like a stupid kid.) And the sad thing is I don't notice this. I only noticed when I recorded myself talking when I was testing out my camera. And man did I sound like someone who should be punched in the face.
When I talk to my friends or strangers I speak in a modest tone but my voice might go uncontrollably lower and people aren't able to hear me speak. It's annoying because people then keep telling me to speak louder. But then thing is I don't notice it. Again.
I think almost everybody does, I curse less to my parents for example, try to be more decent and respectful in front of my religious aunt and I cower in fear in front of my dad in law. But in general I am always a calm person.