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Is it rude to not eat something someone offers you because you dislike the food? 

1,326 deviants said Nope not rude at all, what you should do is politely say no
209 deviants said Yup its rude, you must eat it even if you hate it.
159 deviants said Nope its not rude and they should've known better, the best way to deal with this is to pick up the food and throw it at their face

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SorbetBerry Featured By Owner Aug 20, 2013  Hobbyist
picked throw in your face because that answer made me laugh histerically xD but really i would politely decline unless they're all like "i home-made this just for you special birthday blah blah" then i'd choke it down
niasweet71 Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i agree with you!! ^^
Weaselhatter Featured By Owner Apr 26, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It depends, the people may have worked a very long time to make it but it is usually good to at least thank them no matter what it tastes like and then if you want to add you can tell them either before or after the meal how you felt about it. Things like how it could have been improved or just letting them know the kinds of food you like to eat and that way form a bond with the people. Communication and understanding one another creates harmony and friendship.
DerKerFer Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2012
As an incredibly picky person, I'd LIKE to say it's not rude... but unfortunately most people who've treated me to dinner at their house don't appreciate me declining their [insert home-made dish here] that they worked hard on, and I don't blame them.

... so I just eat my own over-meaty, under-vegetably meals and don't go to other people's houses for foods too often. >.>

That being said, I want to throw someone's food back in their face now. Thanks, Ry.
LunarMew Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2012  Student Digital Artist
I picked the last one. XD

But seriously...this one is tricky for me. I don't think it is rude at all. What if the person is allergic to a type of food? Or the person just ate and eating more food might make the guest sick or something?

Even with this I still force say thank you and eat the food offered. It takes a while but I try to finish.

The thing is that ever since I was a kid I was picky. I still am but my father would always tell me that I should eat the food on my plate because it costs money. Whether you bought it or not. I also used to have a not "uncle" that said the same thing but he was less forgiving. The, "if you throw up the food in the garbage I am going to make you eat the throw up in the garbage because the food you just threw up costs money" type of less forgiving. I am not even making this up. He actually told me that a lot when I was young.

The money being spent being more important than whether I enjoy the food or not then became engraved in my conscience and I forced down any food I was offered even if I didn't like it. Everytime I do that, though, people tell me I don't have to eat it if I don't want to. I KNOW I don't have to eat it but I can't help it. ^^; And saying that I have to eat it because it costs money makes me sound like a hypocrite, even if it was exactly what I was taught to think. XD
XOrdinary1998 Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
If it's something you know you don't like, nicely say no and give them a compliment like, "But it smells really good," or "It looks good, though". If you've never had it, try it, and then do the above if you don't like it.
GemmilyArt Featured By Owner Dec 8, 2012  Student Digital Artist
I don't think it's particularly rude to decline, however I think it's better to attempt to eat some of the food first.
AlexFink Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2012  Student General Artist
If they already made it for me, I'd eat it anyway.
Chibi-C Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2012  Student Filmographer
Purpleground02 Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
For me, I usually say no. And not feeling guilty about it. Unless in some cases, which depends on culture. Some locals here tend to treat people small amount of wine when you visit their home. It's a tradition, like a 'welcome' sign, and if one didn't drink it. Well.. that means you: a) don't appreciate their welcome. b) don't want to be welcomed. c) don't appreciate their wine which they took 2 - 5 years to produce by themselves, or simply d) disrespect their culture.
KittyTheNekoAlien Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I'd probably at least make an attempt to eat it unless I really have something against it. For the last two years, I went to my fiancee's brother's grandma's house with them for christmas, and they always have salad before the actual meal, and I hate salad. I would just serve myself a little bit with no dressing and just eat it. My fiancee would keep telling me I don't need to finish it, but then I'd insist it'd be rude. Plus I was also raised not to waste food.
If I became allergic to something or the food is just too weird, I'd decline. Like I had SEEN roasted crickets in places like hot topic and one of my sister's friends claims to have tried them. I am still a bit iffy on the idea of trying them :O
mike-horo Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2012  Professional General Artist
Come to rural central mexico. Toasted Grasshoppers, Ant larvae, moth larvae, Roasted Corn worm inside your corn. Man, i got hungry.
LunarMew Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2012  Student Digital Artist
While bugs in my plate sounds gross it wouldn't taste bad if tricked into eating it. Who knows. I used to hate eating squid until it was mixed with my tuna without knowing. I just thought it was a specific type of fish chopped into tiny pieces. Ever since then I love squid. I was also tricked into eating pig intestines but didn't mind since they were well done. And since bugs are crunchy I assume they might be like eating the outside of the crunchy skin of chicken but thinned.
mike-horo Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2012  Professional General Artist
No. They are their own kind of crunchy and are better served whole, as they are very small and pulverizing them takes away part of the experience and taste. But only adults when toasted. Larvae and eggs are Soft, More like rice or beans, but more salty, Those are likely to be mixed woth rice and you wouldn't mind.
KittyTheNekoAlien Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
EEEEEW. Not to mention maggots are absolutely disgusting just to look at, I'd say FUCK NO if anyone offered me food involving larva D: And if it had larva and they didn't tell me, I'd fucking punch the shit outta them. I think my hatred of maggots borders on phobia O.o
mike-horo Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2012  Professional General Artist
They cant give you some larvae without you knowing. Those have to be toasted in front of you, you hear them crack and see'm curl in despair before getting in a taco. I got hungry again! You make me hungry. You are cute.
KittyTheNekoAlien Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Lol, talking about my maggot-phobia is cute? I guess depends where you're at, I saw this show called Strange Food or something like that, and the host had some Nicaraguan cheese that they put maggots in for some reason or other. He got people to try it, and then told them what it was afterward, and they were still alive too I think :stare: The people were pretty unfazed by it for some reason cause I guess the cheese tasted good.
SonicWolvelina99 Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It depends who's offering it to you. I would at least try it.

Unless it's Fuuka's/Yukiko's/Chie's cooking.
nightcrawlerash13 Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2012
It depends. I mean if it's something that's gonna make you sick then say no politely. But if it's something that you haven't tried you should try it.
goldhedgehog Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
You can always say: "I'm allergic to those..."
Dearuu Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
It's bad. I remember going to my grandparents once and my granny prepared some kind of sweet sticky rice.. with freakin ginger in it! She looked at me with those granny eyes and asked me how it was so I said it was nice. It really was nice exept the taste of ginger. SWEET+GINGER SHOULD NEVER BE TOGETHER. And so after I finally finished she came back from the kitchen and handed me another plate. //facepalms
Dearuu Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
I have issues with saying 'no'. :iconsobbplz:
nazo-gema Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Professional Filmographer
Been in this situation many times. It's a tough one. Usually I keep quiet and just continue eating, but you only do yourself more damage that way haha.
Now I just say so if it is not really something I like. It's better to say something instead of keeping quiet. But politely of course :). Then the next time that someone will offer you something different which might turn out the best thing you've ever had. It's up to the person offering not to get offended rrly.
Except of course if you do option 3, then I guess that would be kinda seen as offensive

TheonknownKLAW Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Student Filmographer
I honestly don't know how to react to it anymore, seeing as how politely refusing has gotten me nowhere in the past as I was called spoiled and picky and was forced to eat said food... but what a barrel of laughs the aftermath was when i puked it all over the fine carpet! harr harr harr! That's what you get for feeding me intestines and junk you kitchen Nazis!
0okami-Rei Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'll usually try eating everything. Unless they offer me a human fetus. Or cat/dog meat. That's where I draw the line.
K0USEKI Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
if its ur friends say "I aint eatin that shit"
if its someone respectably higher p than you than you should accept it politely as long as you can eat it without making horrible faces or throwing up. like
if someone offered me a pickle, i dont like them but i'll eat it if i have to
but if the offered me a tomato, i wouldnt accept it because i would literally hurl all over the table if i tried to eat it
kiki-doodle Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
The thing that always gets me is when someone offers me food, I accept, and it winds up tasting NASTY. Sort of the case with any time roommates have ever cooked for me. Then I don't know how to say "I don't want any more of this bullshit"
Ry-Spirit Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
i chose politely decline
Mkemaster Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
It is more rude to insist that a person accepts your food offer.
Paper-Plate Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Eat it and then make a horrible gurning face and overreact like it's killing you.

You will never be offered that food again.
the-scream17 Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
all i know is, i hate it when i work really hard on making something good and having my friend turn it down because they're a picky eater.
StarBombs Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Student Digital Artist

kind of depends
but yes
to show respect
you MUST accept the food of a foreign host :U . . .and eat much of their foods
especially in ASIA!
Mevrona Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012   General Artist
I usually force it down even if I hate it.
Tree-kun Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Student Digital Artist
You can politely say "No thank you."
Because that's what a lot of people do when I offer them my snacks :)
It's not rude at all!
IHasShr00ms Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
There are a lot situation/options to go about this. Allergies, dislike in the food, something bad just happened and you don't feel like eating, etc. It' rude to throw the food in their face unless the person who cooked it knew you hate that kind of food. If you haven't tried the food before and you decline it, you should at least try it because you're being more rude if you decline because you never tried it and you're just being ignorant for that.
LDMythos Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes, it's rude, so just tell them "no" and end a friendship!
jwalka Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
last one is the best :D :P put it this way, would you rather force yourself to eat it and throw up all over their house b/c your body doesn't agree with the food, or would you prefer to look 'rude', which imo doesn't say much about the person offering food :P
Why-did-Kenji-die Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
It's not rude, but if someone made you food and you said you don't want it then that will make them feel bad. At least try it first before you decline. I eat it even if i don't like it or get rid of it like a ninja and pretend I ate it, I just don't want to make people feel bad or be a bad guest lol.
kingboosbiggestfan Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
only use the 3rd one if it's you stupid butler.
TheGalleryOfEve Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
The third one, the third one!!! :happybounce: ... :iconpaybackplz: ... :happybounce:

nightmaredude456 Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It's rude of them, as a host, to push food onto you without asking beforehand if you want any of it. So long as you're polite in refusing them, then you're not being rude in not accepting.
Rutana Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Student Writer
It's not rude.
In fact, I think it's stupid to not tell someone.
Everyone should understand that some people dislike some kind of food. When I cook for someone, I want that it's to this person's taste. So I really think it's stupid, when someone ask you, if you like the taste and you say "yes" just to be polite. Especially because, when you're invited by that person again - chances are you will get the same again. I know that my father, stupid as he was, said he liked the fish-meal some friends gave him. He disliked them in truth, but praised it (not because he wanted to be polite, but explaining it would go to far her). So he ended up getting the same meal EVERY SINGLE TIME my parents visited this family. "Because he loved it so much". Of course, telling the truth then was impossible... so yeah, he suffered.

When I invite someone over and intend to cook, I ask the person beforehand what he/she likes and what not, so I can cook something the person likes. And if the person tells me, it doesn't taste right, no hard feelings. I remember for next time and will do something else.

Food and taste are so different from person to person, that it's stupid to be offended by someone not wanting to eat something. I'm the opinion, that you should accept different tastes and, more importantly, should only eat what you like. It can't be healthy to shove something down your throat you dislike... and I think that's often a mistake parents do to their kids.
They don't like the vegetable? Don't force them, try to cook it differently, or change the vegetable next time. As long as you teach your kid that it's important to at least try something new out, you will find something your kid likes. The more you force a kid to eat something, the higher the chance that it ends up as a food the kid will never like.
I can't stand savoy for example, because my dad tried to trick me into thinking it was spinach as I was a kid (I always loved spinach).
hyenacub Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Eh I'd say if you don't like it but can tolerate it, at least take a few bites. If you really can't stomach it, tell them politely that your stomach can't handle it. It gives you gas, or indigestion, or herpes or something. :XD:
TastyCarrots Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I suppose it depends on the context of the customs of the culture you're in. But you could rephrase it another way, "Is it rude for someone else to implore you to eat something that you don't like simply because they offered it,"
mike-horo Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Professional General Artist
Here is a piece of advice on my part: If you dont like it, dont eat it. Eat everything around it. But not the dish you dont like. Then, Look at it like you are taking all the courage on the world and are about to take a bite just to not be rude.
Generally people take the hint, specialy after a long meal, but if they just don get it, try at least to eat a little bit and blame the rest of the food for filling you up.

That works in my country where its acostumed to put all the food, except dessest, on the table or each person plates. Timed meals only occur on fancy partys, where there migth be some kind of different menus or at least you dont get to reject the food personally.
wolfie157 Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
I definitely think it depends. If you are allergic or vegetarian or something like that, they I think it is more than ok to politely refuse. And if its a food that you know you hate, again, politeness is key, everyone has certain foods they don't like so I think most people would understand. But if its just a food that you don't know if you will like or not and just flat out refuse to give it a try, I think that's rude. Or if you're in a country where it is considered incredibly rude to not accept food given to you, then I think an effort should be made to at least taste it.
Fatal-Nostalgia Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
If you're a vegetarian/vegan it's a bit different. But if it's just something you're afraid to try or you think it might be "icky," then I find it rude. But politely declining isn't necessarily rude I suppose. Just don't make a big deal of anything.
TwitMicky Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012
If it's something simple I tend to refuse politely, but if it's something that they've made a real effort to cook and didn't ask before hand, I'd mention that I'm not to keen on what it may be but I try to eat it out of courtesy.
EquidnaRojo Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh, come on! Throwing food in the face leads to food fights. So rock on! (pick not rude, but politely decline, though... less angry parents/friends)
Turtle-Arts Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
That depends on the situation. If it's someone you know well then it's not usually as rude because they won't see it as rude if they know you. But if it's someone you don't really know as well or a largely public situation, I think it's more rude to refuse.
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