It depends, the people may have worked a very long time to make it but it is usually good to at least thank them no matter what it tastes like and then if you want to add you can tell them either before or after the meal how you felt about it. Things like how it could have been improved or just letting them know the kinds of food you like to eat and that way form a bond with the people. Communication and understanding one another creates harmony and friendship.
As an incredibly picky person, I'd LIKE to say it's not rude... but unfortunately most people who've treated me to dinner at their house don't appreciate me declining their [insert home-made dish here] that they worked hard on, and I don't blame them.
... so I just eat my own over-meaty, under-vegetably meals and don't go to other people's houses for foods too often. >.>
That being said, I want to throw someone's food back in their face now. Thanks, Ry.
But seriously...this one is tricky for me. I don't think it is rude at all. What if the person is allergic to a type of food? Or the person just ate and eating more food might make the guest sick or something?
Even with this I still force say thank you and eat the food offered. It takes a while but I try to finish.
The thing is that ever since I was a kid I was picky. I still am but my father would always tell me that I should eat the food on my plate because it costs money. Whether you bought it or not. I also used to have a not "uncle" that said the same thing but he was less forgiving. The, "if you throw up the food in the garbage I am going to make you eat the throw up in the garbage because the food you just threw up costs money" type of less forgiving. I am not even making this up. He actually told me that a lot when I was young.
The money being spent being more important than whether I enjoy the food or not then became engraved in my conscience and I forced down any food I was offered even if I didn't like it. Everytime I do that, though, people tell me I don't have to eat it if I don't want to. I KNOW I don't have to eat it but I can't help it. And saying that I have to eat it because it costs money makes me sound like a hypocrite, even if it was exactly what I was taught to think. XD
If it's something you know you don't like, nicely say no and give them a compliment like, "But it smells really good," or "It looks good, though". If you've never had it, try it, and then do the above if you don't like it.
For me, I usually say no. And not feeling guilty about it. Unless in some cases, which depends on culture. Some locals here tend to treat people small amount of wine when you visit their home. It's a tradition, like a 'welcome' sign, and if one didn't drink it. Well.. that means you: a) don't appreciate their welcome. b) don't want to be welcomed. c) don't appreciate their wine which they took 2 - 5 years to produce by themselves, or simply d) disrespect their culture.
I'd probably at least make an attempt to eat it unless I really have something against it. For the last two years, I went to my fiancee's brother's grandma's house with them for christmas, and they always have salad before the actual meal, and I hate salad. I would just serve myself a little bit with no dressing and just eat it. My fiancee would keep telling me I don't need to finish it, but then I'd insist it'd be rude. Plus I was also raised not to waste food. If I became allergic to something or the food is just too weird, I'd decline. Like I had SEEN roasted crickets in places like hot topic and one of my sister's friends claims to have tried them. I am still a bit iffy on the idea of trying them
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... so I just eat my own over-meaty, under-vegetably meals and don't go to other people's houses for foods too often. >.>
That being said, I want to throw someone's food back in their face now. Thanks, Ry.
But seriously...this one is tricky for me. I don't think it is rude at all. What if the person is allergic to a type of food? Or the person just ate and eating more food might make the guest sick or something?
Even with this I still
forcesay thank you and eat the food offered. It takes a while but I try to finish.The thing is that ever since I was a kid I was picky. I still am but my father would always tell me that I should eat the food on my plate because it costs money. Whether you bought it or not. I also used to have a not "uncle" that said the same thing but he was less forgiving. The, "if you throw up the food in the garbage I am going to make you eat the throw up in the garbage because the food you just threw up costs money" type of less forgiving. I am not even making this up. He actually told me that a lot when I was young.
The money being spent being more important than whether I enjoy the food or not then became engraved in my conscience and I forced down any food I was offered even if I didn't like it. Everytime I do that, though, people tell me I don't have to eat it if I don't want to. I KNOW I don't have to eat it but I can't help it.
If I became allergic to something or the food is just too weird, I'd decline. Like I had SEEN roasted crickets in places like hot topic and one of my sister's friends claims to have tried them. I am still a bit iffy on the idea of trying them